Sunday, May 19, 2013
divorce and the effects on children
divorce can hold a lot of developmental problems for children like the article should we stay together for the children states. Emotional problems later on in life waiting for that one special person that may not come it puts a lot of strain on kids and even into their adult lives. They have troubles keeping relationships and if they do it's very hard for them to be happy because they are so worried that it might happen to them with what happened to their parents. The parents though if they are in an abusive relationship or something that is very bad on the parent then they need to make sure that the kids know that you did that for the right reasons for your safety and your kids safety. Another thing that helps to ease the pain is to make sure that they are still able to do the same kinds of things that they were doing the same school same routine with no changes. Making sure they are able to see the other parent can also play a big role in the kids life. I have a friend of mine that his parents divorced when he was young and he struggled with drug problems and being in a dark place, but luckily just me being there for him and helping him through things was very helpful and he was seeking help.
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I enjoyed the topic of divorce and the effects it can have on children very much. Although I was married for 26yrs, and my kids did not have to go through the experience of having a split family, a lot of their friends did. When I look back, most of my kids friends would come and hang at our house, some of them would even come with us on family vacations or camping trips. Looking back I think these kids were missing structure and stability in their own families, by coming with us they felt more secure and able to just be a kid instead of a therapist for their own parents. I can not imagine having to balance out a family that is having to live with split custody and all the drama that comes with it. After reading the articles and readings from the book, I can see how important it is for some sort of normalcy for the children so that they don't have to feel like they are the causes for the divorce. Having a good parenting plan in place is crucial along with allowing them to have their own childhood plays such an important role when it comes to divorce. I really enjoyed your Blog.
ReplyDeleteGreat blog I totally agree with you when you talk about the reasons why to leave a marriage. I was a child of a broken marriage and I will admit now, that because of my parents divorce, I reverted to doing a lot of bad thing because so many things in our family changed; my life got flipped upside down. Now being married myself and having a child, and the fact that my husband is not her biological father, if for what ever reason I am faced with a divorce I will have some good knowledge to fall back on in regards to the effects of divorce on children.
ReplyDeleteIt is tough on children to be in the middle of a divorce and unfortunately I have seen parents talk bad about the other parents and step parents picking favorites. I think your right that it can lead to relationship problems in the future, but I also think it may help children by making sure they are in a healthy loving relationship before they decide to have children. Just for the fact that they don't want to hurt there children like they may have been hurt.
ReplyDeleteGreat blog entry. I do agree that there are certain reasons for someone to get out of a marriage, but it does seem like in today's age it's really easy to just leave instead of solving our differences. But I also think it's unhealthy for children to see a bad marriage and have tainted views on how a marriage should function. Overall, it's a tricky topic!
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